Friday, 20 December 2013

How to Improve Your Internet Dating Experience and Find Love

As I’ve mentioned before online dating is a great way for people to find love, but it’s not always as easy and straightforward as we would like it to be.

Many people spend months trying to meet the person of their dreams on the Internet and get nowhere.

The checklist below will help you troubleshoot your cyber dating experience if things are not going as well as you would like them to.

Have you uploaded a picture?

We’d all like to be loved and appreciated for more than just our appearance, but the fact is, online daters like to know who they are talking to. Many people won’t bother contacting someone who hasn’t uploaded a picture, thinking that person obviously has something to hide. A good picture is one that shows people what you look like. Don’t be put off uploading one if you are not conventionally “beautiful”. Whatever you look like, it’s a safe bet to assume that people who look like you meet and fall in love all the time. Uploading a clear picture where you’re smiling and look friendly is your best bet. Headshots are best, with full body shots OK as a second picture.

Is your profile as good as it can be?

Your aim when writing a profile is to make people want to get to know you. With thousands or even millions of people on a dating site, putting up a profile that says nothing but “ask me”, won’t make anyone want to contact you, unless you are a beautiful woman and have uploaded a photo (in which case, only guys who are after sex would bother contacting you). Show people a bit about who you are by writing a profile they will actually want to read. Spend some time actually describing yourself, rather than just listing adjectives (such as “I’m generous, friendly, good cook” etc.) anyone can write the words “I’m funny” but not everyone can make you laugh.

Have you tried contacting people?

Whether you are a man or a woman, it helps to get out there and contact people yourself. Online dating is fast moving us from the times when men were the ones who had to make first contact and women had to sit back and wait or be thought of as too “forward”. With so many thousands of people to choose from, the person you want to talk to may never have a chance to browse your profile unless you let them know you exist, so do it! Regardless of whether they’re interested in you or not, no one will ever hold it against you if you send him/her a message.
How did you communicate?

You think your profile is as good as can be, you’ve uploaded a friendly picture and have sent messages to as many people as you’ve seen but still no response. What now?  The next questions to ask involve the way you communicate with others. Was your message too short? Just writing “hi” or other impersonal, short messages can make people think your message was not sent personally to them or that you didn’t feel they were worth spending a few more minutes coming up with something better to write. Try to write a couple of paragraphs and make the message sound like you’ve put some thought into it. Maybe comment on that person’s profile and say why you chose to contact him/her. Unless you are on a web site where the premise is people have come there looking for sex, don’t be too forward. It would most likely not be appreciated.

Are you ready for dating?

Sometimes people start dating again too soon after a recent break-up. Every one of us has done this and we usually can’t tell ourselves whether it’s too early. Sometimes it’s easy for other people to tell, though. If you’ve followed all the advice in this article, contacted some people, started communicating and then never heard back, you could be subconsciously sending people signals that you are not ready. Maybe you’ve spent too much time talking about your ex, or about how you feel all men/women are cheaters and liars etc.  If you’ve recently come out of a relationship, it may be that you need to give yourself time to grieve or to consolidate what you’ve learned from the experience before you move on. There is nothing wrong with this and we all heal at our own pace. 

Is this the site for you?

Sometimes it does happen that the online dating site you’re using is not right for you. If you’ve spent a few months on a site, have tried your best, uploaded your best picture, sent good messages to people and have gotten nowhere, it could be time to change. Take a look around other dating sites and sign up for some free trials. In online dating, like in the world of flat hunting, location is sometimes everything.

Monday, 11 November 2013

Ten Ways a Happy Relationship Will Make You FAT

Being in a happy relationship is just the best feeling in the world. HOWEVER, I guarantee if you are lucky enough to be with someone you love then you have put on a few pounds since getting together.

Yes I'm afraid it's true, being in love can make you fat.

Here are ten traps to watch out for:

Eating out more:

When you get into a relationship you end up eating out more in bars and restaurants and what you do eat is usually higher in calories than what you would normally go for as you both egg each other on. If you want to cut down on your calorie consumption then why not stay in a bit more and cook for each other and for dessert you can work off the calories in the bedroom.

Girls will eat the same size portions as their man:

I got caught up in this trap as it's very easy to do. When you cook for your man you end up, more often than not, eating the same size of portions as him. This is a sure fire way to put the pounds on. Ladies you have to look after your waistline and cut down on the man-sized portions no matter how tempting they may be.

Lack of exercise:

When you are single you have more time for the gym or you have more time in the morning to go for a run but when you are part of a double act then this time can get smaller. It's easy to skip exercise time and instead spend more time cuddling up in bed but  remember it's important not to fall out of your routine just because you have a partner. If you do reduce your exercise time then when you do work out make sure it's high intensity or even better try and exercise together.

You eat more ice-cream and treats:

When you are snuggled up on the couch or at the cinema then it's easy to grab a tub of ice cream or a pick n mix and stuff your faces. Let's face it eating is really good fun and when you share it with someone you love then it's even better. You probably eat more desserts when you go out for a meal too or you share one. It's good to treat yourself now and again but if you are doing it every night then you have to have a look at yourself.

You drink more:

When you are enjoying each others company it's easy to grab a wee bottle of wine to pass the time with. It's great getting tipsy and laughing together but just remember wine and beer are pretty calorific and they are a sure-fire way of watching your waistline expand. If you want to drink with each other then do it at the weekends and if you want to reduce your calories then try spirits instead. Also when you are drunk you are more likely to eat fatty foods and takeaways.

Emotional eating:

When we are happy we eat, when we are sad we eat. It's a vicious circle.If you are in a happy relationship you will have no doubt fallen into a few traps like the ones above but also if you are going through a rocky patch in your love life you will probably reach for the biscuit tin. You will get five seconds of satisfaction then you will feel bad again, it's just not worth it. Don't eat- talk to people instead if you are feeling down or go for a walk.

High-calorie dates:

If you are in the middle of a dating scene where you are seeing a few people to get to your mr or mrs right then you will be eating out loads which will play havoc with you belly. If you want to date and not pile on the pounds then why not suggest nights out that don't revolve around eating and drinking. Go ice skating, to the cinema, out for a walk or go to a gig instead.

Romantic gestures and edible gifts:

Cooking for each other, buying each other chocolates or grabbing 5pm or Groupon deals in town are a great way of spoiling each other but these treats can also spoil your waistlines. There are ways of saying 'I love you' other than food. Try flowers, lingerie or send love notes or emails to each other instead.

You pick up each others bad habits:

If you partner loves to each crisps and chocolate after dinner then you will probably fall into the same trap. If they like a midnight munch of ice cream then you will probably do the same. When you love someone you often start mirroring their same habits and eating is one of them. Don't pick them up for their bad habits, instead try and introduce healthier snacks such as a bowl of popcorn instead of a 1KG bar of chocolate for a night in front of the telly.

You are in the comfort zone:

When you are happy you can often forget about looking your best. You are in the comfort zone where you think you don't really need to try anymore because you have caught the catch of your dreams so you eat what you want when you want. Your partner will hopefully love you whatever size you are but it's important to remember what you looked like when you first got together. Staying healthy and keeping your weight in check is one of the best ways of maintaining a good relationship.

Monday, 4 November 2013

10 Reasons Men Fall Out of Love With Women

Ladies we have all been in a position in our lives where the man we have been dating suddenly turns around and tells us that he no longer wants to be with us.

It's heartbreaking at the time and you are left wondering what the hell happened and what you did wrong.

Well here are ten reasons guys suddenly go off us girls. Take note and make sure you don't fall into any of these traps:

You are too clingy:

Loads of men break up with their girlfriends because they say they were too clingy. This could mean you call and text him all the time and he doesn''t want that. Or you want constant attention and cuddles when he just wants to sit and watch the football. You may want to hang out with him and his mates when he just wants a boy's night out. Or you just want to spend all your free time together. To avoid being seen as being too clingy you have to find out what kind of relationship you both want. A lot of couples do all of the above and love that level of contact but that is because they are singing from the same commitment hymn sheet. You have to be both ready for the same level of commitment for the relationship to work.

You are high maintenance:

High maintenance girlfriends are a complete nightmare and one of the most common complaints among men. When you are getting ready for a night out do you take ages? Do you refuse to let him see you with no make-up on? Do you moan about getting your hair wet when the rain comes on? Do you want him to buy you that latest designer handbag you have seen or the latest expensive outfit Kim Kardashian is wearing? Is looking good more important to you than letting your hair down and enjoying yourself? If you answered yes to these questions then you really have to take a good look at yourself because this isn't behaviour that will work well in a good relationship.

The honeymoon period ends:

Every relationship has a honeymoon period where you can't keep your hands off each other and you are completely infatuated with the other person and want to spend every waking moment with them. Well this unfortunately ends for everyone. When the honeymoon period ends then that is when reality kicks in and you begin to see your partner for who they really are- warts and all. When you are in a honeymoon state you don't really see your partner's bad habits but when it ends they suddenly become obvious. Sometimes the bad bits outweigh the good bits and that's when men realise it's time to end it with the girl.

He is no longer attracted to you:

This is a hard fact to deal with but sometimes men fall out of love with women because they are no longer attracted to them. Being attractive to your partner is a big thing in a relationship as it will probably be what you got you both together in the first place. As time goes on attractiveness can fade unfortunately as the person gets to know you better. However, ladies please don't worry if a guy suddenly turns round and says they are no longer attracted to you because that is just down to their opinion. It just means you are not right for them and it doesn't mean men won't be attracted to you in the future.

You have become lazy and complacent:

When you have been in a relationship for some time it is easy to get complacent and a wee bit lazy. A lot of women get a ring on their finger and they automatically think they have made it and they no longer need to try with their man. Sometimes men and women stop putting as much effort into the relationship to keep things fresh. People also have a tendency to let themselves go when the get into a settled relationship ie they put on weight and they stop trying to look as good as they first did when they got together with their partner. It's important to keep the spark alive by trying to maintain a healthy, fun relationship. Remember some of the things you both did when you got together and try them out again.

You have different senses of humour:

Yeah I'm afraid it does matter if you laugh at the same things in life. When you first start a relationship you can cope with the fact that you maybe laugh at different things to your partner but as time goes on it does begin to grate on guys. if you don't laugh at the same jokes, the same comedians or each other then you could be on the road to nowhere. If you want a relationship that lasts longer than a year then you have to be on the same page as your partner.

Being two faced, bitchy moaner:

Men do not like bitchy women who moan their faces off. Being a two-faced bitch is such a turn off for guys. Women like to gossip with each other but many guys just aren't interested when they see their girlfriends behaving like that. Are you one of these girls who will compliment another female to their face and when their back is turned you slag them off to your boyfriend? Not a cool way to behave.

If you are a moaner you might also be in trouble as nobody wants to be in a partnership with someone who is always miserable and moaning about anything and everything. Take a look at yourself and if you think this is you then change the way you act pronto because you could be doing more damage to your relationship than you think.

Sleepless nights:

Sleepless nights really can kill a relationship. If your partner snores or is a restless sleeper it can be an absolute nightmare getting a good nights snooze. Again, when you are in a new relationship it can be tolerated but as time goes on it can really grate on some people. Not getting enough sleep can really change someone's mood and behaviour putting strain on the relationship. Sleepless nights are often sited in divorce papers.

You don't talk enough:

Poor communication between couples is a real relationship killer. You have to be able to open up to one another and talk about good things to get to know each other but also you have to be able to talk about any issues that may arise in your relationship. Not being open and honest with each other can really lead to misunderstandings and so many other problems. If you are with the right person then communication should come naturally.

You don't get on with his family:

Family is incredibly important and if you constantly struggle to get on with his parents and siblings then this can pose problems for many couples. You may have your thoughts about them but if they aren't good then try and keep them to yourself. Men feel really uncomfortable when the people they care about in their lives don't get on. If you don't get on with the in-laws and are always causing friction in the family then he could one day have to make an awkward decision- them or you.

There are many reasons why men and women fall out of love and go their own separate ways but keep in mind some of the points above and they will hopefully help you maintain a good relationship.

Sunday, 20 October 2013

10 Sex Experiences You Need to Try Before You Die

Before you get too old to have awesome sex there are ten sex experiences you need to try.

If you are needing to spice up your love life then what I am about to tell you will seriously help you reignite passion between the sheets.

Here are ten saucy sex experiences you should make sure you try:

Morning Sex:

Morning sex is the best way to start your day. Make sure you set your alarm at least once a week to wake up half an hour early and give your partner something to smile about. A lot of guys are really turned on in the mornings, so ladies use this knowledge to your advantage. Also, you wake up refreshed and raring to go which is a far cry from being tired when you come home from work. Morning sex really puts a spring in your step and it will make you smile all day at work while keeping the two of you close.

Have sex in the great outdoors:

Alfresco sex can be spontaneous, sexy and fun but it can come with an element of danger as you really don't want to be caught. If you are in a secluded spot where there is no one to be seen then why not give it a go? Take a picnic blanket and head out to a scenic place and enjoy the fresh air and each other. Because it is quite risky your adrenaline will go through the roof and it will heighten sex between you. However, I think the best way to enjoy outdoor sex is to have it in your garden or on your balcony as it is much safer.

Have sex in a car:

Now this may take some of you back to when you were younger and you first passed your driving test and while living with your parents you needed somewhere to be naughty. Again you have to be in a very secluded spot where no one will see you. Or just park your car in the garage and be naughty in private. Having sex outside the bedroom is fun and relieves any boredom and routine you might have gotten yourself into. You can use the back seat or ladies can straddle their men in the passenger seat.

Have sex using food:

First thing you need to remember is that your sheets will get messy so I would suggest trying this out just before you are ready to wash your duvet. Food sex can be really fun as the pair of you can loosen up and laugh while being sexy. Food and drink that work well includes strawberries, chocolate body-paint, grapes, cream as well as fizzy wine and some ice cubes. Feed each other and eat and lick the food off each others bodies.

Have sex at your parents' house:

Yes having sex at your parents house is very naughty but it can be sexy and frantic too. At some point we all have to stay over at our parents' home with our partner so why not use the time wisely when the lights go out. The sex is hot because we know really we shouldn't being doing it, plus you will have to be a bit quieter than normal which can make the sex even sexier. Just please make sure there is either a lock on the bedroom door or your parents have just popped out for a while and you are both alone.

Make-up sex

We all fight with our better halves but the best part of making-up with them really is the make-up sex- it can be mind-blowing. The reason it is so hot is because you are all fired up and probably raging about something so your adrenaline is pumping and you are feeling passionate. Make-up sex can be frantic but very hot as you rip each others clothes off. Let your inhibitions go and show your partner just how much you want them. Your make-up sex can be romantic if you want it to be but 90% of the time it's hot and heavy but very, very sexy.

Use sex toys and porn:

For some of you this might not be your cup of tea but if you have never tried using toys and porn then I suggest you give them a go at least once- you might just like it. Toys can include vibrators, handcuffs, blindfolds, whips, nipple clamps and willy rings. There is such a huge selection to choose from. Why not take a trip to Anne Summers with your partner and shop for some naughty toys and lingerie, then choose a special night to try them all out. Watching porn together can also be very sexy and can give you both some ideas of new positions to try.

Have sex on the washing machine:

Who says being a domestic goddess is no fun? The best way to do this is for the girl to bend over the machine once she has turned it on then her partner takes her from behind while kneeling into the machine. The vibrations will go right through the both of your bodies sending shivers up your spine and making certain areas more sensitive. Plus you will have clean washing at the end of your spin cycle. ;0)

Pretend you have just met:

Pretending to meet for the first time can be a really sexy role playing game that ends with a happy ending. The best way to do it is for one of you to book into a hotel for the night and then head to the bar where your partner will already be there waiting for a 'brief encounter'. Once you meet each other then pretend you have just met for the first time. Watch the tension and sexiness soar, then head to the bedroom and have wild, passionate sex as if you are having a one night stand. It's naughty but nice.

Stare into each others eyes:

Looking into someone's eyes is incredibly sensual and intimate. However, there are too many couples out there who don't stare into their partner's eyes while having sex. By staring into each other's eyes during love-making you can actually make your orgasms more powerful. Gazing at each other for a few minutes while in the throes of passion makes you feel really close to the other person and the whole experience will be heightened and feel more passionate.

So there you have it an awesome sexy to do list to work through...what are you waiting on..get started today!

Monday, 14 October 2013

10 Sex Injuries You Want to Avoid

Embarrassed Saturday's singer Rochelle Humes revealed live on air recently that she had to be rushed to A & E after being injured during sexy time with her JLS husband Marvin.

Getting injured during sex is more common than you think, it's a highly physical act which does bring with it the risk of getting hurt.

Here are 10 sex injuries you want to avoid:

Falling off the bed:

When we are in the throes of passion we can sometimes get carried away and forget about the dangers of having sex. One of the most common complaints from couples is falling off the bed or table during sexy time. You don't have to do a risk assessment every time you get down to it but it is a good idea to be mindful of where you are having fun.


Believe it or not but some people who have a weak heart have come a cropper when getting all hot and sweaty during sexy cuddles. As I mentioned sex is a really active activity and during it out hearts begin to race. As a result some people just can't take the excitement and exertion and unfortunately succumb to having a heart attack. Research has shown people are three times more likely to have a heart attack in the hours after intercourse.

Swallowing condoms:

Safe sex is a must but sometimes those condoms can be pesky little blighters. I know condoms are now all kinds of flavours but they really aren't for human consumption- some women have actually swallowed them during sexy time.


I think at some point in our lives we have all been faced with getting cramp during sex. It can be a real passion killer but sometimes it's unavoidable when you are getting physical with another person. Sex is like a form of exercise which can burn off 300 calories an hour and like exercise we are prone to pulling muscles or getting cramp when we least expect it.

Bruises, carpet burns and broken bones:

IT'S incredibly common to wake up with some awkward bruises, carpet burns and even broken bones. If you use handcuffs or scarves during sex then be careful they aren't too tight on you or your partner. Also if you are having sex on the floor be mindful of the fact it might be great in the throes of passion but the next day you will be feeling it. Research shows a third of people in the UK have admitted to suffering from sex-related carpet burns and bruises with some eve having to phone in sick.

Incorrect lube:

Using lube during sex can really enhance the experience for the both of you but it is important to find a brand that you and your partner can tolerate. Some people can be allergic to different kinds of lubrication which can leave your skin sore and itchy. There are tonnes on the market to choose from so make sure you get one you both enjoy.

Candles by the bedside:

I dunno about you but I love candle light in the bedroom. Not only is it romantic and sexy but it makes you look better when you are getting down to business. However, having candles by your bedside does bring with it some risks because as the ground moves for you and your partner so does your bedside cabinet and sometimes the candles can be easily knocked over setting the bedsheets on fire. Also I know a lot of couples like using candle wax during sex but this can also lead to the first aid kit due to burns. So be careful.

Avoid broken glass:

It's great to get in the mood for sex with a nice glass of vino or if you are lucky some champagne. However, glasses are the most common things broken in a bedroom and could leave you rolling around in agony rather than pleasure. Be careful you don't knock any over and fall into the broken shards of glass as it is definitely a passion killer.

Keep pets away from the bedroom:

If you have a cat or a dog then make sure it is well away from where you and your partner are enjoying some intimate time. The reason being pets can be very protective of their owners and if they hear strange noises coming from you they may think you are in pain or are being hurt so to defend you they will attack your partner. Believe it or not people have been left with bite and scratch marks because of their pets. You have been warned.

Ruptured blood vessels:

And finally if you are lucky you should be experiencing mind-blowing orgasms but they can also come at a price- burst blood vessels. When you have an intense orgasm you will increase the flow of blood to your head and it can lead to ruptured blood vessels in your eyes leaving you with red eyes as well as reduced vision for a while.

Sex is supposed to be fun but like anything else in life it can come with it's dangers.

But as my mother always says: “If you can't be good, be careful.”

Friday, 11 October 2013

10 Things That Make You Terrible in Bed

Let's face it we all want to be awesome in bed.

We all want to leave our partners satisfied and hungry for more sexy time.

To give you a heads up though there are certain things you can cut out which will automatically improve your performance between the sheets.

Avoid these things and you will boost your sex life for sure:


It is pretty gross climbing into bed with someone who smells and tastes like they have just ate an ashtray. No matter if you take a shower or drink a litre of mouth wash I'm afraid you will still be a massive turn off to the majority of people. Also smoking can stem the blood flow in your body which means for guys your erections might be temperamental, while ladies you might not orgasm as much because smoking makes you feel less sensitive. Stub it out and watch your love life soar.

Get rid of your pet from the bedroom:

I can't believe how many people allow their pets in the room when they are getting down to business. It's so off putting when you are in the throes of passion and you suddenly catch a glance of your cat or dog looking at you wondering what the hell you are moaning at. Also if you allow your pet to regularly sleep on your bed then this can cause your boudoir to smell which isn't sexy at all. Pets can also disturb your sleep cycle, leaving you too tired for any sexy time.

Ditch your smartphone:

Are you one of these people who dives on their phone whenever you hear it 'ding'? If so this could be seriously affecting the passion in your life. That email, text or Facebook message can wait. Sexy time with your partner in the real world is much more important than your virtual friends. He or she has to know you are completely focused on them..not your phone. If you can, banish your phone from the bedroom all together as it not only kills the passion between the sheets it can also give you sleepless nights.

Guys, avoid onions, garlic and coffee:

The obvious reason is of course these foods and drink makes your breath smell. However, guys should stay away from them for another reason- they make your semen taste awful, according to research.

Avoid thinking about your work:

Work is stressful, there is no denying it but don't let your feelings about work and your boss get in the way of having fun in the bedroom with your partner. It happens to us all that sometimes we just can't shake the day off and it automatically kills the passion at home and also makes you emotionally tired. Our sex drive automatically soars when it's the weekend as work is a distant memory or when we are on holiday. During the week though try and de-stress before your hit the bedroom. It's supposed to be a calm environment where you not only get a good nights sleep but you also have fun in with the person you love.

Don't wear scruffy pants or old lingerie:

Guys don't wear boxers or pants that have seen better days and girls make sure your lingerie is still hot to trot instead of needing to go in the bin. There is nothing sexy about old scruffy underwear. Just like with food we eat with our eyes first and it is the same in the bedroom, if your partner looks good then you are more willing to have a good time with them.

Don't watch violent or sad films or TV before bed:

When watching sad or violent movies or TV programmes they give you feelings of stress, anger, sadness, fear or anxiety and all these emotions are far removed from the aroused feeling you want to have when getting between the sheets with your partner. Instead turn up the heat and watch more erotic and sexy shows to help get you in the mood.

Body hygiene:

Your sex life will be non existent if you don't maintain good body hygiene. B.O is such a turn off as well as bad breath. Also keep your toe nails in check as well as your body grooming. Nobody likes going to bed with a gorilla- male or female. If your hygiene isn't the best then your partner won't be happy and will be less likely to dive between the sheets with you. 

Keep up your exercise routine:

Regular exercise boosts your sex drive as you feel like you have more energy and you will be looking toned and healthy which will of course boost your confidence. Plus, exercise releases endorphins which is our body's happy juice which will make you more open to some sexy time. A recent survey showed guys who exercised for an hour three times a week had better sexual satisfaction and had more sex.

Don't get fat:

I've left the worst to last. Putting on weight will make you terrible in bed. That's because you will become self-conscious and your confidence levels will fall through the floor. You won't feel as sexy any more and you won't be as adventurous in bed like you were when you were a few pounds lighter. Your sexy time will become routine and less fun for your partner so put the cakes down and remember your love-life is more important than a sugar rush.

There are of course other things that can make you bad in bed but I guarantee if you take into consideration some of the points above then you and your partner will be much happier under the covers.

Tuesday, 8 October 2013

How to Cope When You See Your Ex With Someone Else

Read my article on how to cope when you see your ex with someone else online at the Daily Record

Sunday, 6 October 2013

10 Tips to Relieving Stress When Moving In Together

It's the best feeling in the world when your boyfriend asks you to move in with him. It's a huge step and while it's amazing living with someone you love it can also be incredibly stressful as this is the time in your relationship where you will begin to argue. Trust me it happens to us all. So here are ten tips to help ensure you have a smooth transition into your new home and your new way of life:
Decide where you want to live:

Sometimes moving into your partners' home can be awkward especially if he has lived with an ex at that same address. If you are cool with that then fine but if not then you have to raise that subject. Maybe you just don't like your partners' place and you think yours' is better, in that case suggest you move in together at your gaff. But for some couples the best thing to do is find a home that is new to you both which has no ghosts running around from previous relationships.
Sort out the clutter:

When you get to a certain age you will have collected quite a lot of belongings- much of which you probably won't really need. When moving in with someone then this is the ideal time to sort yourself out and get rid of all the clutter in your life. It will be the same for your partner too. So set aside a day where you both work out what to throw out and what you would like to keep.
Don't leave the paperwork to one person:
When you buy or rent a home then there is a lot of grown up paperwork to deal with which can be quite stressful. Make sure that you take your fair share of responsibility and don't just leave it to your partner to deal with. If you share the paperwork then you are halving the stress but it also means that you will both be clued up as to what it going on regarding your new home.
Share the household chores:

One of the big reasons couples argue is down to housework and daily tasks surrounding the house. It takes a lot of energy to run a home as well as maintain a relationship while holding down a career and having a social life. The best way to cope is by agreeing with each other who should do what chores. For instance I hate hoovering but my other half doesn't mind while I don't mind dusting- he hates dusting, so we agree we each do those chores. If you want you can draw up a rota to keep you right. Remember boys cooking and cleaning aren't just for women nowadays.
Give each other space:

When you first start living together you will want to spend every waking moment together but over time you have to realise that it's important to give each other some space so you and your partner can have some 'me time'. Getting time out on your own is hugely important as it clears your head and you don't feel smothered. It's important to be able to relax on your own whether that is read a book, go for a long bath or listen to some music. Everyone needs 'me time' so don't be afraid to ask your partner if you want to do something on your own for a couple of hours in the house.
Always have date night:

When you live with someone for a wee while and the honeymoon period rubs off then it's very important to schedule at least one proper date night a week. This means the pair of you only spends time with each other and ignore those smart-phones. Just forget the housework, your pain in the ass boss and the bills you need to pay and instead devote much needed couple time together. You could watch a DVD, cook dinner together or get naked and dance in your living-room- anything to keep the fun in your relationship.
Talk money:

It's rubbish having to be sensible with your partner and talk about money. It's not very sexy or fun but it has to be done. If you are moving in with your partner then is it something you can't avoid. Make sure you are both aware of what money is due every month for rent and bills. If you have a joint account make sure you both transfer money into it each month. If you want to save for a rainy day then make sure you are both on the same page and contribute to your 'fun fund'. If you borrow money from your partner then make sure you arrange a way to pay them back.
Accept each other's habits:

When you move in with someone you see them for who they really are- good and bad habits. When you share a bedroom, kitchen and bathroom with someone then you have to be prepared to accept they may do things a little differently from you. No one is perfect just remember that. If some of their habits are annoying you then bring them up in a polite rather than insulting or embarrassing them.
You have to be flexible:
Let's face it when it comes to home decoration men and women are sometimes poles apart. That means it is important to compromise with each other rather than fight it out in the soft furnishings section of a department store. You have to try and meet in the middle when it comes to choosing wallpaper and furniture. Remember it's not just your home it's a place for the both of you to enjoy.
Be honest with each other:
It can be a nerve-wrecking time moving in with the love of your life as it all of a sudden fells grown up. It's a commitment after all. So if you are feeling uneasy about something or you are worried about how your relationship will adapt then please talk to each other. They will probably have similar concerns you have anyway.
Moving in with the love of your life will have its ups and downs but I guarantee you that coming home to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with it just the most incredible feeling.
Every night feels like a Friday night for me and I hope it does for you too.

Thursday, 3 October 2013

0.3% Have 'OTHER' Sexual Preference

Out of every 100,000 people in the UK, 300 describe their sexual preferences not as straight, gay or bisexual but as "other", a poll has revealed.

A large survey of more than 340,000 people found that 0.3% would consider their sexuality to fall into this category, the Office for National Statistics (ONS) said.

More than nine out of 10 (93.5%) people in the UK deem themselves to be heterosexual, according to the Integrated Household Survey from 2012.

The experimental data show that 1.1% of people would describe themselves as gay or lesbian and 0.4% consider themselves bisexual.

Meanwhile 4.7% of respondents gave no response or said they did not know.

The ONS said London had the highest proportion of adults who said they were gay, lesbian or bisexual and the East of England reported the lowest.

The report also said that people aged 16 to 24 were more likely to identify themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual, with 2.6% categorising themselves in this way compared with 0.4% of adults aged 65 and over.

Monday, 30 September 2013

Camping Can Improve Your Sex Life, According to New Research

If your sex life is needing a bit of a jump start then it seems a few nights under the stars camping is just what you need, according to research by a British tent manufacturer.

OLPRO came up with their findings after quizzing more than 500 couples about their nighttime activities under canvas.

They discovered a staggering 95 percent of couples saw their sex life soar whilst they were camping but also that loving feeling continued to improve when they got back home.

Here are some of the results of their survey:

How often were you and your partner having sex prior to going away?

Once a month 47%

Once a week 28%

Once a year 23%

Once a day 2%

Did did you have sex more often whilst you were away?

Yes, a lot more often 52%

Yes, twice as often 37%

No, the same as usual 8%

Not at all 3%

Why do you think camping enhances your libido?

Fewer distractions 45%

Fewer worries 37%

Closer proximity 9%

Earlier bed time 7%

Being in the great outdoors 2%

Where were you camping?

Dedicated campsite in the UK 71%

Dedicated campsite overseas 22%

In the wilderness overseas? 5%

In the wilderness in the UK? 2%

Commenting on the findings, psychologist Barbara Bishop said:

"Getting out in the great outdoors allows us to leave many of life's distractions and worries behind. It gives us the opportunity to reconnect with our partners and recharge our relationships in a very meaningful way.

We rediscover our primal selves when we're close to nature but there is also that added frisson of knowing just a thin layer of canvas shields us from the outside world. "

Thursday, 26 September 2013

Four Ways to Improve Intimacy With Your Husband

If you are married then you are more than likely to love your husband very much but as the cliché goes 'sometimes love just ain't enough' to keep the spark alive and the relationship going strong.

How is life between the sheets? Is your love life needing a make-over? If so you might be nervous discussing the subject with him as he might get the impression that he doesn't satisfy you anymore. Don't worry though as there are ways to improve things without trying too hard.

Date Your Husband

I've touched on this subject in previous blogs and i'm reiterating the point because I believe dating is hugely important to keeping the spark alive between the pair of you. Many married men and women get to the point where they can't be bothered investing time and effort into the relationship. They get too comfortable and get complacent with each other. Don't fall into this trap as your relationship will be on a rocky road and it will get to a point when it will feel more like a friendship. Instead ask your partner out on a date like you used to do when you first got together.

Now many wives might think that their husbands should do the asking but you sometimes have to take the bull by the horns and ask for yourself. Why not choose a romantic activity like a candlelit dinner in a sexy restaurant, a night in a hotel or a movie or comedy night. Dating can help reignite the passion in your relationship while improving the intimacy too.

Carry Out Some Romantic Gestures

When it comes to being romantic many women make the mistake of thinking it is up to the men. Wrong- it takes two people in a relationship to make it work. One of the easiest ways of getting that loving feeling back is showing some romantic gestures. When out shopping with your husband then why not hold his hand? When you walk by them in the house then grab them and give them a kiss. Make sure you tell your partner you love them last thing before you fall asleep at night or pop a note in his bag telling him you can't wait to see him when he gets home at night.

Be Sexy and Seductive

When was the last time you went out and bought some lingerie to turn your man on and make you feel sexy? If you have been married for a while you probably won't remember. Well make it your mission to buy some sexy nightwear to get the romance going between you again. Also don't always wait for your husband to initiate sex, get frisky and watch his amazed but excited reaction. Why not perform a striptease for your partner or just start massaging their body. You may be surprised just how easy and effective it is to be sexy and seductive.

Be Spontaneous

If you have a routine when it comes to sex then switch things up a bit. Change your sex positions, experiment with new ones. Why not surprise your partner when he comes home from work by just wearing your lingerie when he walks through the door. Also don't always have sex in the bedroom, try every room in your house. Send some saucy texts or leave him post-it notes telling him what you plan on doing to him when you see him next. Why not introduce some toys into the bedroom to spice things up? Remember that experimenting in the bedroom doesn't have to mean you feeling uncomfortable, just do what you feel is appropriate in your relationship.

It's easy for any relationship to go stale at some point and it really does take time and effort to keep the relationship fun and sexy.

Relationships are like anything else in life- if you put the hard work in then you will get the rewards.

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

Can Losing Weight Help Improve Your Sex Life?

Are you a man or woman who is unhappy in the bedroom?  If you are then do you think your bulging waistline might have something to do with it?

Let’s face it when you first get together with someone you are so happy and carefree that you forget about eating healthily. Every time you are together you are either eating out, cooking huge luxurious meals or ordering takeaway, not to mention stuffing your face with goodies when you are both snuggled up on the couch watching movies.

But be warned as gaining weight can have a serious impact on your sex life.

So if you are carrying a few pounds and you feel like you aren’t on top of your game in the bedroom don’t worry as losing weight can more than likely bring the spark back into your love life.

However, many people make the mistake of believing that by losing weight they will automatically have better sex. That’s not always the case as it’s down to how the individual is feeling. Being intimate with your partner may feel better and result in more pleasure but it honestly may be due to an increase in your self-confidence levels.  Men and women who lose weight usually see an increase in self-confidence.  This extra confidence often allows them to enjoy sex more while allowing them to lose their inhibitions. However, the sex may be the same old sex you have been having for years, but it just feels better now.

Another impact that losing weight can have on your sex life is you begin to feel more comfortable experimenting in the bedroom. Experimentation is a key to keeping your relationship hot. When you lose weight you are more likely to try new positions because you suddenly aren’t paranoid how you look when before being a few pounds heavier previously kept you from being creative. If you have lost some weight then this is your time to shine. Show your partner that you now have moves that you never even thought of trying before.

Another form of experimentation in the bedroom is role playing and when you are overweight it’s the last thing you want to do as you are more than likely self-conscious about how you look. Weigh loss gives people the confidence to try new things without the fear of looking silly. By losing those extra pounds you may now have the confidence to have sex with the lights on, wear sexy lingerie or wear a full-blown costume. These kinds of steps can do wonders for your relationship both inside and outside of the bedroom.

I know we have only talked about you so far but it is also important to take your partner into consideration. Unfortunately, when you are overweight and feeling down on yourself it’s something many people don’t think about- the other person. If you were to lose weight there is a good chance your partner will love the improvement in you. Yes, your spouse most likely loves and worships you now, but there is still something attractive about those who take steps to better themselves especially in terms of appearance. If you do decide to lose weight then let your partner know that you lost the weight not only for you but for them too.

Since there is a good chance that your sex life will improve with weight loss you will probably want to get started straight away. Imagine yourself thin in the bedroom enjoying your sex life more as a motivation for shedding the weight. Get back to being that person whom your partner first fell in love with.

Thursday, 19 September 2013

How to Stop Jealousy Killing Your Relationship

Being the green-eyed monster in a relationship is horrific and so is dating one.

I can guarantee you that letting your jealousy show is a fail-safe way to lose your dignity, dismantle your self-esteem and frankly ruin a good part of your life!

Nothing will kill a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. It creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate and fear. No one thinks clearly when they're jealous.

Having a relationship with a jealous person is no fun either. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even transforming them from lover and supporter, to enemy.

No one wants a jealous partner and no one likes being jealous. So how come so many people are?

In my experience there are a number of reasons but the primary cause is a breakdown in communications and this usually happens for one of two reasons:

Something has changed and for some reason you don't feel able to communicate openly and honestly anymore.

Or perhaps one or both partners are withholding information out of anger, hurt or even just plain thoughtlessness.

Both situations create communication "black-holes" which are then easily filled with fear, fury and fantasy.

Communication vacuums lead to a load of tough questions from the jealous partner:

Have they found someone they like better than me?

Are they cheating on me?

Are they going to leave me?

Have they found someone richer, younger, funnier and more attractive than me?

When you're jealous you assume the worst:

Maybe he/ she will fall in love with their personal trainer and leave me.

Maybe they fancy someone at work and are having an affair.

They aren't answering their phone because he or she is too busy flirting, talking to or shagging someone else.

I bet you felt pretty stupid too when they come in from the supermarket carrying loads of bags or the reason they didn't answer the phone was because they were in the loo or in a meeting at work.

We sure make life tough for ourselves sometimes there really is no need.

Don't get me wrong it is good to have a little bit of jealousy in a relationship as it shows you care about each other but don't let it overpower your relationship and your thoughts.

So how do you handle these awful feelings of jealousy? How do you deal with a spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend who is jealous?

First if you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. Don't be aggressive, defensive, confrontational or prickly.

Second, and just as important, you have to stop looking thirsty for reassurance. How on earth can your partner respect you if you don't respect yourself enough to control your fears and paranoia?

Thirdly, you have to remind yourself why you are together in the first place and understand that a relationship is only worth keeping alive if you CAN trust each other. If that trust is gone then maybe it's time to move on.

Remember, jealousy is a sign of weakness and fear. In the end the fastest way to kill the green-eyed monster has nothing to do with your partner and everything to do with you.

When you have great self-esteem, jealousy has no choice but to pack it's bags and leave town!

Monday, 16 September 2013

Introduce Date Night into Your Relationship and Improve Your Love Life

When you want to develop or maintain a relationship then it’s important to keep scheduling dates into your time together. 

Unfortunately if you have been together for a while then many couples enter into an area of comfort. This comfort zone often has a significant and negative impact on the relationship or marriage.

So if you feel your relationship needs a kick up the bum then introduce DATE NIGHT at least once a week! Don't let your relationship become boring and average. 

You have to work at keeping the romance and spark alive and to do this it's important to remember to date each other like you did when you first got together. Don't fall into the relationship comfort zone and never underestimate the power of a simple date as it can reignite passion, intimacy and romance between the pair of you. 
If you are married or in a long-term relationship then dating is a crucial factor in keeping your relationship fresh and alive. In fact, dating can help to save an otherwise failing partnership.

Now when I say date your partner I don't mean that each special night together has to cost a fortune or has to be overly romantic. Date Night is just about enjoying that intimate connection between the pair of you and spending quality time together without everyday life getting in the way.

There are a few rules to remember about date night:

Don't talk about your crap finances.

Don't talk about the kids.

Don't talk about stresses at work.

Do do something you both enjoy.

Do talk to each other, communication is vital in a great relationship.

Try and forget about every day stresses that are bothering you.

DO HAVE SEX! Date night is about romance and showing your partner how much you still love them so sex is very important.

Date Night with your partner helps to ensure that love and romance remains a part of the relationship. 
As I mentioned earlier it's important to schedule a Date Night into your working week. Go to the movies, have dinner in or out, curl up in bed together and be intimate. These kind of activities keep your relationship strong and fun.

You can also choose activities that will create romance like a walk along the beach, romantic dinner in a nice restaurant, a night away at a sexy hotel. Why not go horse riding or try crazy golf? Do something fun that you will both enjoy and laugh about. These types of activities can help the sparks to fly in your relationship.

If you and your partner are parents it's important to know that dating can be complicated, but it is still more than possible. You may find that it is quite difficult to get away without the kids, but it is vital to find a way! You have to remember that you were a couple before your children came along and it's important to spend time together without them. Your relationship and intimacy levels can flourish when you are given time alone.

I think Date Night is really important to help keep things ticking along nicely in a relationship. Dating is an important component of a happy and healthy relationship. Remember that a strong relationship often translates into more fun, love, and passion in the bedroom.

Friday, 13 September 2013

Improving Your Sex Life: How to be Spontaneous

Are you looking to improve your sex life? If you are, you may have already heard that being spontaneous is a good way of going about it.

Spontaneity often leads to an increase in interest in sex and an increase in satisfaction in terms of intimacy. Unfortunately, some men and women find being spontaneous difficult.

Here are some tips and advice on living for the moment and getting more sex!

One of the many ways that you can be spontaneous is by not waiting for your partner to initiate sex. Unfortunately, many women wait for their husbands and boyfriends to get sex started. Why wait? You shouldn't. In fact, your partner may be hoping that you start showing more interest in being intimate with them? What better way to do so than initiate sex yourself?

A creative way to be spontaneous where sex is concerned is by using text messages. Try sending some sexy and seductive texts to them. Explain exactly what you want to do to them when you see them later. Or you could even give them a call and talk dirty to them.

As I mentioned earlier there are some couples who find it difficult to be spontaneous. Parents often fall into the category. Even if you are a parent who has children in the house then there are still a number of ways that you can be spontaneous. Once you have put the kids to bed then jump on your partner. Most parents want to sit down and relax after their kids have gone to bed but show your partner you have other things on your mind.

Having sex somewhere other than bed or the bedroom is another way to be spontaneous with your partner.

As for where you can have sex outside of the bedroom, use your creativity. Where do you want to have sex? What locations would allow you to try new positions that just can't be done in a bed? As well as being intimate in places like on the couch, in the bathroom, or on the kitchen table, consider going outside of the home as well, like to a hotel.

Speaking of getting intimate outside of the home, surprise your partner. You can do this by booking a night in a hotel in town. Make sure you choose one that has romantic rooms or an onsite hot tub or swimming pool. Don't tell your partner about your plans until you are ready to leave as being spontaneous involves surprising them.

As you see, there are a number of different ways that you can use spontaneity as a way to improve your relationship, both inside and outside of the bedroom.

What are you waiting for? Get started today? Your partner may appreciate your quick thinking.

Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Are You Having Enough Sex?

A SHOCKING investigation carried out by glossy magazine Top Santé has revealed us British women are just not having enough sex.

The Happiness Survey showed 20 per cent of females between 35-55 NEVER have sex. A further 10 percent questioned said they were having sex less than three times a year while a massive 60 percent of women have sex twice a month.

And don't just think it's only divorced or single women who are missing out in the bedroom as over a quarter quizzed admitted to having sex just once every two or three months.

Jane Druker editor of Top Santé magazine said: "The findings were shocking and sad, especially in light of the fact that sex makes us feel good which helps us live longer and it's free!

I think women can feel under pressure to have mind blowing love lives but actually the intimacy of everyday sex is enough – a 'quickie' can give us genuine health benefits and truthfully sex begets more sex ."

Let's face it- sex makes us happy! It's nature's Prozac and a third of the respondents to the survey agreed that regular bedroom activities puts a spring in their step.

If your sex life is needing a bit of a boost as well as your happiness levels then you need to asses whether your sex life needs a makeover.

Here are five signs you should consider: 

Do You Find Sex Boring?
Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a certain point where sex just isn't fun anymore. Does it seem more like work or a chore to you? Being intimate with your partner should not seem like a responsibly that you are required to fulfil. Instead, it should be fun and exciting.

Do you reject being intimate with your partner? Do you put off going to bed with them in fear of being intimate? If you do, your sex life may need an improvement or a change.

Are You Are Left Unsatisfied?

If and when you do get intimate with your partner, do you achieve maximum pleasure? If not, your sex life may be in serious trouble. This is most often the case with women. Some women find it more difficult to achieve maximum pleasure in the bedroom. But, know that it is possible. You may need to offer suggestions to your partner or guide them. Whatever you do, just be sure to take action right away. A relationship where only one party is pleased, is likely to fail.

Does Sex Feels Like a Responsibility?

As it was previously stated, being intimate with your partner should not seem like work or a responsibility that you must fulfil. If it does it is time for you to change. Be spontaneous. Initiate sex yourself, as opposed to waiting for your partner to do so. Spice up your intimacy by experimenting in the bedroom with a new position or simply just have sex at a different time and place. Whatever approach you do take, be sure to do something. Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fail because sex is something that you would rather avoid.

Are You Having Sex At All?

To have a good sex life you must first be having sex. Are you? If you are in a relationship, you should be. Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense.

If you are currently not in a relationship, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't have or not get sex. Take action to start feeling wanted, needed, and loved today. This may involve using an online dating website or just visiting a bar with a bunch of your friends.

Is Your Relationship Failing?

Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing? If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble. Despite arguing about a topic not related to sex, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame? Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well. The two should go hand in hand.

So do you have a happy and healthy sex life? If not, remember that there are a number of steps that you can take to make an improvement.

Get sex and get happy!