Thursday, 27 June 2013

15 Tips for MEN on How to Be a Better Boyfriend or Husband

The other day I gave girls some pointers on how to be a better girlfriend so today guys it's your turn.

You will only have a good relationship if it's based on great teamwork- It takes two to make things awesome.

That's right guys that means you have to put some effort into your relationship as well to make things work otherwise you might just see your gorgeous girl head off into the sunset with someone else.

So here are 15 tips on how to become a better partner:

1) Tell her you LOVE her. It's not rocket science. If you genuinely love your partner then tell her as often as you can. Tell her when you wake up in the morning and the last thing at night. If you never tell your woman you love her then shame on you.

2) Be affectionate: Give her a cuddle. Hold her hand. Sex isn't the only physical way to show someone how much you care about them.

3) Tell her how beautiful she is. If you are going out on the town then tell her how pretty she looks or how sexy her outfit is. Women dress to impress their men. Show her you appreciate it.

4) Do not ogle other women when you are with your girlfriend or wife. It is completely disrespectful. If you do have a wandering eye then you really shouldn't be with your current woman. Everyone looks now and again as it is only natural but when you are with your partner you should be 100% committed to her.

5) Keep things spicy in the bedroom. Try new sex positions. Put your partner's orgasm first before you enjoy the moment. Make her feel sexy and treat her like she is the only woman in the world you desire. Do not force her to do anything she doesn't want to. Just because you watch a porn film don't expect your partner to behave like that.

6) Communicate more with her. Guys like to bottle things up and not share their thoughts as much. You are never going to have a successful relationship by keeping your feelings to yourself. Tell her about your day. Tell her about your past and your dreams for the future. She is supposed to be your best friend.

7) Make sure you try and spend at least one day of your weekend where is it just you and your partner. It's important to have quality time together. It may not always be possible to do this but try. Also at night make sure you allow at least a couple of hours to chill with each other.

8) Be romantic: Send her flowers. Cook her a nice meal. Decorate your home in candles and snuggle up. Take her for walk along the beach or in a nice park. Buy her lingerie. Leave her romantic notes around the house.

9) Talk to her on the phone. It's unbelievable how many couples don't talk to each other on the phone anymore. Instead people just text and email. You will never survive longterm if this is how you carry on as you will never be as close as people who actually call each other up and TALK. Plus in texts and emails people's tone can come across all wrong which can lead to arguments.

10) Realise that when Mother Nature comes calling every month that she may turn into a bit of a nightmare. Her hormones will be all over the place and she will probably be in some discomfort. Give her a break. If she snaps at you as she really won't mean it.

11) If you play computer games and watch football on the TV all the time then this will not lead to a very happy relationship. Yes we all have to have our 'me' time but if that is what you are doing every night when you get home from work then trust me your relationship is in trouble.

12) Treat her the way you would want to be treated.

13) Be faithful. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife then end the relationship as she really does deserve to find someone better than you.

14) Treat her now and again. Every month buy her a wee gift. Buy her a nice meal. It doesn't have to cost you the earth but a wee treat is a nice gesture and it shows you are thinking of her and you know what she likes.

15) If you have kids together then remember there is a woman there who isn't just a mum. She too wants to be remembered as the girl you fell in love with. Make the effort to do things together that you did before children came along.