Saturday, 27 July 2013

Ten tips to surviving a holiday with your partner

Holiday season is well under way and for even the strongest of couples this time of the year can put pressure on your partnership. 

Going away to the sunshine for a couple of weeks with your boyfriend or girlfriend is dramatically different from romantic evenings in after a hard day at work, that's because you will be spending 24 hours a day together. And unfortunately some couples just don't survive the time away together. Divorce lawyers report a rise in separations in September once the holiday season has finished due to the pressure put on relationships during vacation time.

So in order to make your trip a bit smoother here are TEN tips to follow while you are away:

First you have to agree on what you both want from a holiday. One of you might be a sun worshiper who just wants to lounge about and get a tan while the other one might want to sightsee. It's important you both have your needs met and decide how you can spend your time together.

While on holiday decide what you are doing the day before as you don't want to waste the following day discussing the various trips and activities you can get up to. By being organised you take the stress out of the situation.

You will have to learn to compromise more on holiday than when you are at home that's because there are a million decisions to be made every day like where to eat, where to visit, who is carrying the beach towels etc. Take the other persons viewpoint on board, don't just dismiss them.

Communication is so important when you are on holiday. If you don't want to do something or you would really like to do something then just say so. Your partner isn't a mind reader.

Limit the time you spend on your smartphones checking Facebook, work emails and sending texts. You are supposed to be on holiday with your partner so show them some respect. Instead check them while they are in the shower or in the swimming pool. Just remember you are on holiday though.

Don't feel like you have to spend every second of the day together. It's ok to do some separate activities. If your boyfriend wants to play pool volleyball while you relax and read a book then that's cool. Or you could want to shop instead of sightsee with him. If you do different things then its all good as it will give you something to talk about over dinner.

Don't expect one person in the relationship to take responsibility for all the holiday documents such as passports, money and travel insurance. Remember you are supposed to be a team so don't let one person take it all on board as that will just cause problems.

Be responsible for your own packing. Don't expect your partner to buy the sun cream or pack the beach towels. If you want to take them on holiday then get them yourself.

Why not let one of you choose the activities for the day and where you eat. But remember you can't moan about it because you will have a turn to decide what to do the following day.

Girls don't moan about feeling too fat in your summer clothes. Eat and drink what you want on holiday and lose the weight when you get home. Guys don't get wasted every night just because you are on holiday. Drink but remember it's not a guys holiday you are on.

Going on holiday together can be tough. Many couples go away and they realise they have major problems in their relationship, some of which they just can't fix. 

However, just remember that the pair of you WILL argue on holiday no matter how strong you are as a couple but that doesn't mean your relationship is on the rocks, its just natural.

For the majority of couples going on holiday is a happy time filled with memories and laughs you can look back on for years to come.

Just relax, enjoy it and go with the flow!