Wednesday, 7 August 2013

Relationships And Cheating: Does It Happen To Everybody?

It's a sad reality, people cheat on their partners. 

Just ask gorgeous Kelly Brook who this week is facing the devastation that her rugby hunk boyfriend Danny Cipriani cheated on her with a string of women. You can't hardly read a paper or watch TV these days without hearing about some actor, singer, politician or sports figure making a public apology for an affair. But can you avoid this type of relationship? Is it possible to have a relationship with no cheating, or do relationships and cheating go hand in hand?

The good news is that not everyone cheats. As a matter of fact, there are lots of people who will stay faithful to their partner for their whole life. The important thing to remember is that cheating is a choice; it's not some biological need.

Our society tends to have a double standard between men and women when it comes to sexuality, even in this modern day and age it's still there. While society tends to turn a blind eye to the indiscretions of a man and in some ways even condones that type of behavior, women are still made to feel as though they are a slut if they have multiple partners while men are referred to as players. 

So if a man, or woman, tries to say they cheated because they couldn't help it, you know that is not true and there is just something wrong with that particular person. Once you realise that, you can end the relationship and move on to someone who has more respect for themselves and for you and your relationship.

In many cases the warning signs will be there very early in the relationship and once they've been spotted you can save yourself an awful lot of pain by ending things right then and there. For example, if you are starting to date someone who you know cheated in their last relationship, what makes you think they won't do the same thing to you?

Many people will be very delusional at this point and convince themselves that their lover cheated in their past relationship because something was wrong in the relationship and since you are so wonderful and your relationship is so wonderful they don't need to cheat on you.

That line of thinking couldn't be more wrong. There's actually quite a bit of evidence to suggest that men are actually more prone to cheat on a wonderful loving woman more quickly. Why? Simple, because on some level he thinks that she's so in love with him that he can do whatever he wants to and she will put up with it. And, unfortunately, that's often true.

People also tend to cheat because they aren't getting the feeling of love that they need. One of the best ways to greatly diminish the possibility that your lover will ever cheat on you is to pick someone who has a lot of self confidence. I don't mean a stupid, fake macho swagger which is really just a sign that that person is very insecure, but I mean someone who knows who they are and likes who they are. That type of person would be far less likely to need to have a harem of women telling him how great he is. He'd be much more likely to be content with just his wife telling him how great he is. 

Just keep these tips in mind and remember that relationships and cheating do not have to go hand in hand. 

The best deterrent to cheating is finding the right partner.