Sunday, 11 August 2013

Tips And Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair

If you're worried you or your partner are getting sucked into an emotional affair and you want to know what warning signs to look for then read on.

 An emotional affair can sneak up on anyone. No one really goes looking for an emotional affair; they just find themselves feeling a connection to a person.  Usually that connection isn't physical, at least not at first, and that is why it can be so easy to not realise what is happening until its too late.

It's much more difficult to break off a relationship once you start to have feelings for the other person than it is if the relationship is just purely sexual.  That's why in some ways an emotional affair can be worse than a sexual relationship.

Here are some tell tale signs that you are on the brink of having an emotional affair:

1.  If you find yourself defending the relationship by saying 'We're just friends', chances are you're on your way to something more.  Think about it for a moment, when you're talking about a friend who you have no attraction to at all you don't ever feel the need to defend that relationship, do you?   Even in the early stages of an emotional affair, there is a part of you that knows what's going on and that's why you will feel the need to defend the relationship.

2.  If you're spending time thinking about that person that is a real danger sign.  Again, as a benchmark, think of one of your other friends.  Do you think about them as often as this new person in your life?  If the answer is no, you have to be careful of what is developing between you and your new crush.

3.  Do you almost feel like your life is on hold until you're with your new friend?  If you find that you can't wait until the next time you can see them or that you don't even want to go anywhere unless you know they'll be there, then there is a very good chance that what you're feeling is a lot more than just friendship.

4. If you are opening up to this person more than you are your spouse or boy/girlfriend than that is another sign of a problem.  Your spouse is the person you should be able to talk to about anything.  If you find that you can tell this new person in your life things that you can't, or won't, tell your spouse you are getting in way too deep.

5.  If you find that you are making excuses just to spend time with your new friend alone, then you are well on your way to committing adultery.  Manufacturing reasons to be alone with this person is a sign that deep inside you want the relationship to be more than just friends.

If you, or someone you love shows warning signs of an emotional affair, don't wait, take action right away.  It's not easy to end a relationship when you are in love with the other person, that's why it's best to end it before it really gets started.