Tuesday, 21 July 2015

Ashley Madison hacked: How to tell if your partner is cheating on you

MILLIONS of cheating husbands and wives are facing an anxious wait as hackers threaten to expose their dirty secrets online.

As many as 1.2 million Brits are member of the Ashley Madison website which is a dating network which “guarantees” people seeking to cheat on their husbands or wives they will “find someone”.

Unfortunately, infidelity is a reality for some of us and a devastation that all too many couples go through.

If you think your partner is having an affair, then there are signs to watch out for.

Have they lost interest in having sex with you? This can either be a gradual change or all of a sudden.

You may want to question what is going on if this has happened, especially if your sex life has always been good.

If things have slowed down in the bedroom, then it could be that your partner is showing someone else some special attention.

If men suddenly change their appearance, then this can also be a red flag that they are cheating.

Has he lost weight, bought new clothes and joined a gym without your knowledge?

Is he wearing a new aftershave and acting more confident?

Does your partner guard their mobile with their lives and constantly check their messages, especially on Facebook? If they don’t share who has texted or emailed them and everything is now password-protected, then this could also be a sign that something is not right.

Does he switch off his mobile when he is with you so he doesn’t get any texts or phone calls from his mistress?

If, all of a sudden, your partner is happy when they leave the house instead of being miserable to go to their job like they used to be, then this may also be a sign of infidelity.

Getting up early and coming home late maybe aren’t sure signs that they are cheating but they can be early warning signs that something is not quite right.

Have they stopped making eye contact with you when you have a conversation? This is usually a sure sign of guilt eating at them.

How about mystery charges on your credit card bill for gifts that you did not get or trips you didn’t take or nights in a hotel you knew nothing about.

If your partner is spending far too much time away from you and it seems like they can’t stand to be in the same room with you when they are home, then this too may be behaviour that sets alarm bells ringing.

Has your partner started spending more time with a colleague at work or do they talk about them constantly? When you meet someone new, it’s exciting and you want to tell the world about them.

It can be hard to be sure if someone is cheating on you but go with your gut instinct. If you feel something isn’t right about your relationship, then it probably isn’t.

In many cases, the warning signs can be there early on in the relationship and once you spot them, you can save yourself a lot of pain by ending things right there and then or talking them through with each other.

The good news is that not everyone cheats.

Infidelity and relationships don’t always go hand in hand. The important thing to remember is that cheating is a choice, it’s not some biological need.

The best deterrent to cheating is finding the right partner.